Has it happened to you? All your friends are having fun,
attending fabulous parties, traveling to exotic places, getting promotions or having
lots of new exciting things happening in their lives, …posting lots of great
pictures on their Instagram and Facebook... and here you are trapped at home (or a
dead end job), looking for a job and dealing with rejections, the flooring in
your house hasn’t been installed for 3 weeks now, the back of your car is
damaged,…or any other crappy thing
happening to you… and you feel totally down and envious… oh so envious after
seeing all those wonderful photos of your friends. So what can you do to feel
better? Here is how I am dealing with a major case of social media (SM) envy:
-Be grateful: just a couple of months ago, I couldn’t wait
to get back to my house and to my quiet boring life. I wanted peace and
stability… So now that I have it, I should be grateful and not spoil it with
boredom and envy.
- Remember the past: I have had fabulous time and great adventures
when these friends were working hard or were in crappy situations. Now it’s their
turn. Mine would come again soon enough.
-Take great pictures: a beautifully presented meal, a gorgeous
piece of dessert, a romantic sunset, pretty flowers, cute pets, something fun in
my day to day life. When I look for a beautiful moment to capture in a
photograph, I will notice how many of those exist in my daily boring life and I
usually don’t notice them. I have challenged myself to find and snap a pretty
picture every day.
-Plan mini adventures (while waiting for the big one): there
are new neighborhoods, cafes, parks and museums in this city of ours that I
haven’t been to or I’ve liked and love to visit again. My major reason for SM
envy is my craving for newness and excitement. By trying a new food, new
recipe, new cuisine, going somewhere new, finding or seeing something new (a landmark,
a fabric, a work of art) I feel energized and happy. I also like to start a new
project, crafting something, drawing or writing and by focusing on that project
I feel instantly better. By eating some never-tried-before street food, I feel
daring and brave. Going hiking and getting my blood pumping makes me feel
alive. I can find a performance I like to see and attend it. Dressing up for a
concert or play would be fun. Yes, there are so many things I can do right
here, right now that make me feel alive and excited.
-Plan your big adventure: Right now I can’t travel to the exotic
places that my friends do (well, I can’t travel anywhere right now. I’m stuck
at home!). No Morocco, South America or Japan in my near future. But while I
wait, I am reading everything I can on Japan and planning my dream trip. I know
which cities I would like to visit, what food I better eat and can find great
places to stay. So when the time comes, I am ready! Along those lines, I better
start learning a few Japanese words as well. The only one I know is: Sayonara!